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Just had abdominal tripple open sugey but I came home from hospital early.  I am very bruised on the left side of my hernia surgery, may go into the walk in clinic to make sure this is okay.

My mother was admitted to hospital last Sunday  went to see my  mom she is not eating or drinking and refusing all medications.

She is really out of it with her vascular dementia, her potassium being low, she has a blood clot in her lunng, emphysima, and bronchitis and a mass in her adrenal gland which they won't operate on as they said she may not come out of surgery.

I'm glad I had my hernia surgery done, Im very sore came back yest as my mom's condition has worsened late this week, she is no longer speaking and is not eating or drinking.

Suzanne

Thank you.

My mom had a stroke a month after my gastric bypass surgery in February 2009, then she continued to have strokes and was diagnosed with vascular dementia and had to go into a care home at 73 yrs old.  I was trying to help straighten out my parents place with my husband, and go through things throwing stuff out that they didn't need an simplyfing things and I guess I did it to soon after surgery.   Then got two more hernias on top of the first one.  My mom was placed as pallitive about a month ago, and she is not eating or drinking much so the prognosis with everything else going on with her as well it is not looking very good.

Least I am back in town as I had my hernia surgery in Victoria on Thursday and came back Friday morning.

Suzanne

I'm glad to hear you had your hernia repair finally! I was suppose to do my on Thursday too, but we had to reschedule as they wanted me to see a blood specialist first.

I'm really sorry about your mom :( It sounds like she's near the end now and that usually goes quickly. Sometimes it's much easier and better for everyone that way. My thoughts are with you!

Glad to hear you had your surgery finally. And very sorry to hear about your mom!

Thank you everyone for your kindness.

Blake hope your mom's hip heals well, it is difficult when a parent has to go into the care home system. My heart goes out to you and your with and your family with that.

Hi Suzanne

My hernia repair surgery was done open, and I have dissolving stitches, I would ask your doc about the staple.

I think when I had my gastric bypass surgery my staples came out between 12-14 days after, see what your gp says.

I am having a lot of pain on the left side especially from my hernia surgery, same amount of pain as right after surgery and it's been three weeks so I believe I need to get this checked, very very swollen, bruising has gone away though.

I haven't had much time to rest since my surgery, as moms condition dropped she had a seiure on the Friday after my surgey, so I had to come home quckly day after, then they said nothing more they could do for her, so we made the decision to take her from hospital back to the care home for whatever time she has left.  Day after she was back from the hospital her breathing went laboured, colour turned to grey and she was put on oxygen and didnt wake up that day.

Then last Saturday same thing happened laboured breathing, put her on oxygen, she was not awake couldnt wake her and the nurse said her pulse was getting weaker and weaker, her blood pressure was 105/63 when I left the care home last Saturday.

So we are taking things day by day she is listed as palliative, with cancer in the adrenal gland,liver and ducts enlarged, blood clot in the lungs, and emphysima and she is just on pain meds to keep her comfortable now and not eating much in the way of food, and tiny amount of liquid during the day.

Thanks for the email, hope you are healing well from your surgery

Suzanne

Wow I had dissolving stitches for my hernia repair surgery.  My RNY I had staples.

Im going to get a ct scan as  seen doc on Tuesday believes that I have a tare in my hernia repair, not sure what happened will know after the scan is done.  It is very swollen and extremely painful on the left side.

Im on stronger pain meds now because the pain from the left side is very strong.

My mom we almost lost her three times and she has come back from a seizure in hospital, while I had my surgery, then two times her bp and pulse dropped, she was put on oxygen and had fluid on her lungs, but rallied through.  She is not eating much these days, as she is not able to eat without having tremendous amount of pain.   She is palliative and the specialist came in on Monday they are keeping her comfortable until she does pass away, said its a matter of time.

It is amazing the strength my mom has to still be here day after day, but sad as well as she is in a lot of pain, controlled by meds, she is now bedridden and isnt in a gerichair anymore as anytime they move her she cries out from pain. 

Thanks for asking about my mom,  it has been very hard to see her in this condition, she has lost so much weight, that her dentures are too lose in her mouth so had to take them out, and she has sores in her mouth, we got her oral gel, poor lady she looks like a little doll in the bed.

My dads health is now starting to turn as well, he goes for a colonoscopy beginning of August.

They asked me last week if I needed or wanted to talk to someone, I told them I have a strong faith and that is getting me through but I do have my moments where I break down into tears.   I have a great group of friends and family that have been supporting us through this.

Thanks for thinking of me,

Suzanne

Sorry to hear that you have to deal with this on top of the other stuff in your life.  Hope that it helps and you recover quickly.  How is your Mom doing?? Jayna

Thank you

Suzanne

Suzanne,

I am sending you positive energy and hoping that things get better real soon for you. Sounds like you've had your fair share of pain in the last little while and you are still there for others when they need you. I am wishing you a speedy recovery and strength to get through this difficult time in your life. You obviously are a strong person. Keep your chin up life throws us curve balls every now and then but it's how you deal with them that counts. Hugs!!